Tuesday, April 26, 2011

I Said, "No Drama!"

Wedding planning, as I have been told, is supposed to be a stressful thing. I said that when Mr. K and I picked our wedding date that the drama we endured would be minimal: I think we've done a fairly good job, but wedding planning involves other human beings and thus drama has occurred. While I was away at Leader Dogs for the Blind retraining with Glacier, our D.J cancelled on us. He told my Mom that his computer had crashed and he lost all of his music. First of all, who the hell is a D.J for a living and doesn't back up his/her files at least three times? So with about six weeks to go we were forced to find a new one. The thing that worried me is that we're a border town and that weekend is a holiday weekend for the United States. Would we be able to find someone decent? The other concern I have is whether or not my Mom is going to be able to track this moron down and get her deposit back. He told her that he would give it back and help us find a new D.J, but we haven't heard anything since that email. I told her to email him back and tell him that if she doesn't see that 300 dollars by this weekend that she will be contacting her lawyer. Despite our phantom D.J, one of my best friends and Bride's Maid Lindsay, came through and found us another D.J. We met with him last Friday when I returned from LDB and all I have to do now is make a "must hear" and a "do not play under any circumstance" music list. Both lists have been started.
There have been other small dramas here and there with one of our Bride's maids and Groom's Men disappearing off the face of the planet and not telling us they were no longer going to be a part of our wedding. I've emailed/phoned/facebooked them. Mr. K has sent them messages on Facebook as has my Mom trying to obtain their mailing address so we could send them an invitation. We finally gave up at the end of February as the girls' dresses needed to be ordered  by that time.
We've also had to deal with family members from both of our sides deciding not to come because they don't have the money. How do these people not have the money? We were engaged in November of 2009. They have had over a year to save up! It wouldn't bother me so much, but one person is Mr. K's dad. I really hope that he actually comes and that we've been misinformed.
Despite these glitches, we continue to plan and I think it will be a great day. I am completely aware that things will never go according to plan and I am trying not to get upset about the small bumps in the road we are coming across. In fact, the only thing that has really made me angry was the possibility of Mr. K's dad not coming. I was surprised at how calm I felt when the D.J crapped out on us. The exciting part is the stuff that is actually coming together.
I got an email today from another Bride's Maid who will be arriving here on the 24th, asking me if someone could pick her up. My Auntie Maria was here this past weekend and she helped us figure out what the table centre pieces would consist of. She also went to the chapel and took pictures for her husband so that he will know what kind of lighting he will be working with. Their gift to us is being our photographer and videoing the ceremony. My Mom also put a down payment on her dress and Lindsay picked hers up yesterday. Tenie and Carmen will have had theirs hemmed yesterday and my dress will be shipped up here next week. For every little thing that goes a little wrong, a dozen more go right, which is very exciting.
As May 28th draws closer, I will keep telling myself "no drama" and letting the unplanned things roll off. It's going to be a day of fun and even if things don't go quite as planned, oh well because those will be the things that will create our memories.

3 comments:

Brooke, Phoenix, Cessna, Aspen & Canyon said...

It sure sounds as though your wedding plans have gone quite well! I remember all the drama we had to endure while planning ours...so glad it's over!! I really do hope Mr K's Dad will come, because I think it's important for parents to be there...even though Huib said it was fine, I think it still bothered him that his parents did not come to ours - mind you, I'm kinda glad they didn't seeing as they don't like me lol!

I'm so sorry Huib and I won't be able to attend, we really wanted to :( We'll make it up to you though in June, when you and Glacier visit!!

Kolchak Puggle said...

As a former wedding planner, I can tell you that something will always go wrong at the last second - and that it never really makes the day any less happy or exciting. Just let the problems fall away and just focus on how wonderful it will be to marry Mr. K surrounded by family and friends. Congratulations!

browndogcbr said...

Hi Y'all,

Sounds like y'all have everything under control!

When our nephew married, his bride planned everything. It was beautiful. However, I found out from her sister that everyone called her "the General". Right up until she walked down the isle she was ordering everyone around. VBG

BrownDog's Momma